Author Micah Salaberrios

An Outline of All 4 Steps of NVC…

 
 
 
Author Micah Salaberrios gives a solid run-through of all four steps of Nonviolent Communication.
 
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NVC is about connecting with ourselves and others from the heart. It’s about seeing the humanity in all of us. It’s about recognizing our commonalities and differences and finding ways to make life wonderful for all of us. https://www.cnvc.org
 
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NVC communication “feelings” exercise from the book by Marshall Rosenberg
 
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..::”The second component necessary for expressing ourselves is feelings. By developing a vocabulary of feelings that allows us to clearly and specifically name or identify our emotions, we can connect more easily with one another. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. NVC distinguishes the expression of actual feelings from words and statements that describe thoughts, assessments, and interpretations.
 
Exercise 2
 
EXPRESSING FEELINGS :: If you would like to see whether we’re in agreement about the verbal expression of feelings, circle the number in front of each of the following statements in which feelings are verbally expressed. Here are Marshall’s responses for Exercise 2:
 
1) “I feel you don’t love me.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “you don’t love me” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker thinks the other person is feeling, rather than how the speaker is feeling. Whenever the words I feel are followed by the words I, you, he, she, they, it, that, like, or as if, what follows is generally not what I would consider to be a feeling. An expression of feeling in this case might be: “I’m sad,” or “I’m feeling anguished.”
 
2) “I’m sad that you’re leaving.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed.
 
3) “I feel scared when you say that.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed.
 
4) “When you don’t greet me, I feel neglected.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “neglected” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker thinks the other person is doing to him or her. An expression of feeling might be: “When you don’t greet me at the door, I feel lonely.”
 
5) “I’m happy that you can come.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed.
 
6) “You’re disgusting.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “disgusting” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses how the speaker thinks about the other person, rather than how the speaker is feeling. An expression of feeling might be: “I feel disgusted.”
 
7) “I feel like hitting you.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “like hitting you” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker imagines doing, rather than how the speaker is feeling. An expression of feeling might be: “I am furious at you.”
 
8) “I feel misunderstood.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “misunderstood” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker thinks the other person is doing. An expression of feeling in this case might be: “I feel frustrated,” or “I feel discouraged.”
 
9) “I feel good about what you did for me.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed. However, the word good is vague when used to convey a feeling. We can usually express our feelings more clearly by using other words, for example: relieved, gratified, or encouraged.
 
10) “I’m worthless.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “worthless” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses how the speaker thinks about himself or herself, rather than how the speaker is feeling. An expression of feeling in this case might be: “I feel skeptical about my own talents,” or “I feel wretched.”
 
Rosenberg, Marshall B.; Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (Nonviolent Communication Guides)
 
https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory
 
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The 8 C’s in IFS represent qualities of the Self – your core, wise essence that naturally emerges when you’re in Self-leadership:

1. **Curiosity** – Genuine interest in understanding your parts without judgment

2. **Compassion** – Deep caring and kindness toward all your parts

3. **Calm** – Peaceful, centered presence even amid inner turmoil

4. **Clarity** – Clear seeing of what’s happening inside

5. **Confidence** – Trust in your ability to navigate internal experiences

6. **Courage** – Willingness to face difficult feelings and memories

7. **Connectedness** – Feeling linked to others and something greater

8. **Creativity** – Access to new solutions and possibilities When you lead from Self rather than from your parts, these qualities naturally arise.

For example, instead of being overwhelmed by an anxious part (which might make you act from fear),

Self-leadership allows you to approach that part with curiosity and compassion.

These Self qualities are essential for healing – they create the safe, trusting environment parts need to share their burdens and eventually let them go.

They also model how we might approach global conflicts: with curiosity about different perspectives, compassion for all involved, and the courage to find creative solutions together.


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"The finest emotion of which we are capable is the mystic emotion. Herein lies the seed of all art and all true science. Anyone to whom this feeling is alien, who is no longer capable of wonderment and lives in a state of fear is already dead.
~Albert Einstein 
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..::"For me, the Jewish religion, like all others, is an incarnation of the most childish superstitions... And the Jewish people have no different quality for me than all other people".  

~ Albert Einstein
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Einstein viewed the "cult of individuals" as unjustified and often in bad taste, noting that it was unfair to select a few for "boundless admiration" while ignoring everyone else. 

(He explicitly stated he could not see anything "chosen"
about Jewish people)

 

 

”Refusing humility traps you in delusion.

~People will convince themselves they are fighting you...
~while being blind to the fact that it was never actually about you...
~it has actually been a one-sided beef with their Creator all along.
~This is why we say, “Don’t kill the messenger ♡

 

..::” Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact
One and the same. 

~Marshall Rosenberg
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“Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear.”

~ Albert Camus
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Imagine living on the only known planet in the infinite universe, where the mortified rich get richer by colonizing the people to follow debunked dogma, repeating an ancient doctrine of war, projected onto innocent children, again and again, the rich get richer, and the children inherit a brutal indoctrination instead of Living Sacred Life.  https://empathymatters.org/armageddon/

The phrase “Domination leads to Ritual Sacrifice” bridges the gap between historical sociology and ancient anthropology.

Throughout history, domination—the exertion of control, barbaric power, or authority over others—has frequently been inextricably linked to ritual human sacrifice.

This connection manifests in both structural power dynamics and ancient religious practices.

The transition from domination to human sacrifice is essentially the barbaric projection of unhealed guilt onto other human beings, often innocent children.

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via Brad Blinstrub   ” Amen. What we are seeing is the march of the Khazars. A disaster renamed Israel.

via EnterTheUnseen ” If you truly understand the bridge between Spirit & psyche, you’d NEVER condone forcing religious beliefs on others &/or disempowering people’s spiritual decision making. It’s abusive behavior that breeds religious trauma, which creates fear-based neural associations to divinity.
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