Author Micah Salaberrios

An Outline of All 4 Steps of NVC…

 
 
 
Author Micah Salaberrios gives a solid run-through of all four steps of Nonviolent Communication.
 
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NVC is about connecting with ourselves and others from the heart. It’s about seeing the humanity in all of us. It’s about recognizing our commonalities and differences and finding ways to make life wonderful for all of us. https://www.cnvc.org
 
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NVC communication “feelings” exercise from the book by Marshall Rosenberg
 
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..::”The second component necessary for expressing ourselves is feelings. By developing a vocabulary of feelings that allows us to clearly and specifically name or identify our emotions, we can connect more easily with one another. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. NVC distinguishes the expression of actual feelings from words and statements that describe thoughts, assessments, and interpretations.
 
Exercise 2
 
EXPRESSING FEELINGS :: If you would like to see whether we’re in agreement about the verbal expression of feelings, circle the number in front of each of the following statements in which feelings are verbally expressed. Here are Marshall’s responses for Exercise 2:
 
1) “I feel you don’t love me.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “you don’t love me” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker thinks the other person is feeling, rather than how the speaker is feeling. Whenever the words I feel are followed by the words I, you, he, she, they, it, that, like, or as if, what follows is generally not what I would consider to be a feeling. An expression of feeling in this case might be: “I’m sad,” or “I’m feeling anguished.”
 
2) “I’m sad that you’re leaving.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed.
 
3) “I feel scared when you say that.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed.
 
4) “When you don’t greet me, I feel neglected.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “neglected” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker thinks the other person is doing to him or her. An expression of feeling might be: “When you don’t greet me at the door, I feel lonely.”
 
5) “I’m happy that you can come.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed.
 
6) “You’re disgusting.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “disgusting” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses how the speaker thinks about the other person, rather than how the speaker is feeling. An expression of feeling might be: “I feel disgusted.”
 
7) “I feel like hitting you.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “like hitting you” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker imagines doing, rather than how the speaker is feeling. An expression of feeling might be: “I am furious at you.”
 
8) “I feel misunderstood.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “misunderstood” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses what the speaker thinks the other person is doing. An expression of feeling in this case might be: “I feel frustrated,” or “I feel discouraged.”
 
9) “I feel good about what you did for me.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re in agreement that a feeling was verbally expressed. However, the word good is vague when used to convey a feeling. We can usually express our feelings more clearly by using other words, for example: relieved, gratified, or encouraged.
 
10) “I’m worthless.”
 
If you circled this number, we’re not in agreement. I don’t consider “worthless” to be a feeling. To me, it expresses how the speaker thinks about himself or herself, rather than how the speaker is feeling. An expression of feeling in this case might be: “I feel skeptical about my own talents,” or “I feel wretched.”
 
Rosenberg, Marshall B.; Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (Nonviolent Communication Guides)
 
https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory
 
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..::”Nobody in the world, nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of people who are oppressing them.

 
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Active Listening

We Think We Listen, but that might be a thought!

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Understanding this could greatly reduce human suffering.

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🌺❤🌺“The finest emotion of which we are capable is the mystic emotion. Herein lies the seed of all art and all true science. Anyone to whom this feeling is alien, who is no longer capable of wonderment and lives in a state of fear is already dead. ~Albert Einstein
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🌺❤🌺”Refusing humility traps you in delusion.
~People will convince themselves they are fighting you…
~while being blind to the fact that it was never actually about you…
~it has actually been a one-sided beef with their Creator all along.
~This is why we say, “Don’t kill the messenger ♡🌺❤🌺
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🌺❤🌺 Love Albert Einstein 🌺 … Only a comic book bible would suggest a cultish behavior to genoc~~ everyone else, but some special chosen ones? OMG
 
 

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