IFS Exercise
The Essene Gospel of Peace &
Love’s Breath Session
Tuesday – Friday@ 6:30 PM ET
Zoom Link :
https://MiamiNetwork.org/zoom
Open to everyone.
Monday :: Empathy Circle :: 8 PM ET
Tue-Fri :: Essene Gospel of Peace :: 6:30 PM
The Essene Gospel of Peace &
Love’s Breath Session
Tuesday – Friday@ 6:30 PM ET
Zoom Link :
https://MiamiNetwork.org/zoom
Open to everyone.
Tuesday :: IFS :: 8 PM ET
Wednesday :: Empathy Circle :: 8 PM ET
Thursday :: Meditation :: 8 PM ET
Friday :: IFS :: 8 PM ET
Saturday :: ACIM :: 9 AM ET
ACIM – Saturday – 9 AM ET
ACIM Daily Lesson
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https://acimi.com/a-course-in-miracles/text/chapter-30/introduction
Chapter 30
The New Beginning
Introduction
The new beginning now becomes the focus of the curriculum. The goal is clear, but now you need specific methods for attaining it. The speed by which it can be reached depends on this one thing alone; your willingness to practice every step. Each one will help a little, every time it is attempted. And together will these steps lead you from dreams of judgment to forgiving dreams and out of pain and fear. They are not new to you, but they are more ideas than rules of thought to you as yet. So now we need to practice them awhile, until they are the rules by which you live. We seek to make them habits now, so you will have them ready for whatever need.
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How to: Empathy Circle
https://empathymatters.org/now/how-to/
The two main criteria are:
1. Are you speaking and acting from your own experience?
aka: Empathy is not about “fixing” someone else.
2. Is your practice contributing to well-being?
aka: Emathty is not about harming self or others (“Ahimsa”) ….
If harm occurs accidentally, empathy circles can be used for repair work and healing.
Resolution Circle:
https://empathymatters.org/now/how-to/?#resolution
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Related QUESTION: “When should NVC not be applied for a reason of impaired health?
ANSWER: ” I cannot think of a situation in which Self-compassion, Self-empathy, and Self-connection is not appropriate. ~Marshall Rosenberg
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“The finest emotion of which we are capable is the mystic emotion. Herein lies the (seed) germ of all art and all true science. Anyone to whom this feeling is alien, who is no longer capable of wonderment and lives in a state of fear is a dead man. ~Albert Einstein
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Sunday :: IFS Exercises :: 10 AM ET
..::”Nobody in the world, nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of people who are oppressing them.
We Think We Listen, but that might be a thought!
https://empathymatters.org/now/active-listening-carl-rogers/
Universal Declaration for Peace and Human Dignity:
We, the people, recognizing our shared humanity and interconnected destiny, do hereby affirm and declare:
https://empathymatters.org/now/universal-declaration-for-peace-and-human-dignity/
“All war is a symptom
of man’s failure
as a thinking animal.”
War is not an inevitable outcome, but a result of man’s proud refusal to use reason, dialogue, and empathy to explore strategies that meet everyone’s needs.
It implies that resorting to fear and violence is a regression from our natural potential for peaceful thought, and that peaceful solutions are the hallmark of a truly evolved, intelligent species.
A failure of reason: The quote proposes that war is a failure of human intellect because it replaces rational problem-solving with physical aggression rooted in a mentality of domination.
A symptom, not a cause: Steinbeck frames war as a symptom of a deeper human failing—the refusal to resolve disputes through more thoughtful means like diplomacy and understanding.
An appeal to higher potential: The quote serves as a challenge to humanity, encouraging the elevation of our thinking beyond fear and conflict toward a more peaceful life on Earth.
War is not a sign of strength: In this view, war is a sign of weakness in the ability to manage fear, resulting in destructive reactions over a selfish, feverish. squeamish, fear of sharing.
“Hurt people hurt people.”
… “That’s how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with empathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future.” ~Yehuda Berg
The full quote expands on this idea, suggesting that to break the cycle, one should meet anger with empathy, contempt with compassion, and cruelty with kindness.
This concept suggests that individuals who have experienced pain or trauma may unconsciously pass on that hurt to others, creating a cycle that can only be broken through a conscious choice to respond with compassion and forgiveness.
The core idea: People who are in pain tend to inflict pain on others, passing on negative patterns across generations.
The solution: The quote proposes a path to break this cycle.
Meet anger with empathy.
Respond to contempt with compassion.
Counter cruelty with kindness.
Let go of the need to find fault and practice forgiveness.
The outcome: The quote ends with the powerful statement, “Love is the weapon of the future,” suggesting that love and compassion are the tools to stop this cycle.
Yehuda Berg: was born in Israel, is the author of many books on Kabbalah. He led the Kabbalah Centre until 2014.
Philip Berg: Yehuda Berg’s father, who was an Israeli rabbi, founded the Kabbalah Centre in Israel and then moved to the United States.
Yehuda Berg grew up in a Jewish environment and received a kabbalistic education by his father and an orthodox rabbinic ordination from a rabbinic seminary in Israel. As an active contributor of the Kabbalah Centre since the 1990s, he has developed his own Kabbalah interpretation focusing on self-improvement and healing, and has coached many Kabbalah Centre students, including some celebrities. In 2004, Yehuda Berg became co-director of the Kabbalah Centre.
However, Yehuda Berg left the Kabbalah Teaching Centre due to a sexual harassment lawsuit filed against him by a young female student in 2014. Link
..::”Nobody in the world, nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of people who are oppressing them. ~Assata Shakur
On an individual level,
healing strategies include:
- Developing self-awareness: Practices like mindfulness can help individuals perceive and witness their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, rather than being ruled by them.
- Finding safe spaces: Processing emotional pain requires a safe environment, whether through talking with a trusted person, a support group, or a mental health professional.
- Creating a new narrative: By exploring and sharing one’s trauma story, it becomes less upsetting. This can happen through writing or speaking with trusted individuals.
- Practicing self-regulation: Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and physical activity can help regulate the nervous system and calm the “fight, flight, or freeze” response.
- Active Choice: Individuals can choose to break the cycle by seeking healing, forgiveness, and a living relationship with Self, thereby creating a different path for their own and future generations.
Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) terminology, Matthew 6:24 illustrates the conflict of a person’s “Self” being torn between two competing “Protectors” or “Exiles”: the “God” part and the “Mammon” (MONEY/materialism) part.
A person cannot fully serve both, as each has a different agenda that creates internal conflict, forcing the Self to choose which to prioritize to avoid being overwhelmed by one’s own divided system.
This is because “Mammon/MONEY” operates as an external and potentially idolatrous “Protector” seeking security, while the “God” part represents a deeper spiritual “Witness” that can be neglected when “Mammon/MONEY” rules.
Key concepts in IFS terms
Conflicting parts:
The “God” part and the “Mammon” part are presented as two opposing managers or leaders within a person’s system. One is a part focused on spiritual and eternal things, while the other is a part focused on material wealth and security.
Protector vs. Self:
When a person tries to serve both, it’s because “Mammon/MONEY” is acting as a “Protector” part, attempting to provide a sense of safety and worth. This creates an internal conflict with the “Self,” which is the core of the person’s being that should be in charge.
Divided allegiance:
The scripture highlights that a divided heart is unsustainable. A person cannot maintain equal loyalty to two opposing “masters” because the “Protectors” demand different actions and have conflicting goals. One will be loved while the other is despised, leading to internal “hatred” or resentment.
The choice:
The choice is not between being rich and being poor, but between which part has ultimate authority. Serving God is the way to achieve ultimate security, as it allows the “Self” to be in charge, while serving “Mammon” means the “Protector” takes over and exerts control over the person’s life.
Exile and unburdening:
Choosing “God” over “Mammon” is a path of “unburdening” the “Mammon” part, as the person’s security and worth are not dependent on material possessions. This allows the “Self” to lead and the “Mammon” part to be seen as a tool rather than the master.
We The People Want Peace:
“So what prevents Peace Now?
Unconscious, unhealed trauma projected onto “others”.
AI REPLY:
The idea that unconscious, unhealed trauma is a key barrier to peace suggests that external conflicts often mirror internal struggles. When individuals and groups carry unresolved emotional pain, they may project that pain onto “others,” creating cycles of misunderstanding, fear, and violence. This concept can be applied to both interpersonal relationships and large-scale international conflicts.
How unconscious, unhealed trauma prevents peace:
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- Creates a cycle of aggression: People “at war with themselves” often cause collateral damage to those around them. Unhealed pain can manifest as anger, insecurity, and a need for control, which can be projected onto others who then feel hurt and react defensively. In group settings, this dynamic escalates, turning shame and rage into collective cycles of violence.
- Impairs perception and communication: Unresolved trauma shapes how people see and react to the world, often triggering a “fight, flight, or freeze” response. In a state of hypervigilance, ordinary situations can be perceived as threatening, causing a breakdown in communication and a loss of control.
- Leads to demonization of the “other”: A key part of the projection process involves assigning one’s own unwanted feelings or aspects of trauma to another person or group. This “demonization” turns the other party into an enemy and is a dangerous foundation for further conflict and bloodshed.
- Creates a cycle of aggression: People “at war with themselves” often cause collateral damage to those around them. Unhealed pain can manifest as anger, insecurity, and a need for control, which can be projected onto others who then feel hurt and react defensively. In group settings, this dynamic escalates, turning shame and rage into collective cycles of violence.
- Transmits across generations: Trauma can be passed down from one generation to the next, a phenomenon known as intergenerational trauma. This means that the wounds of past conflicts continue to fester in the collective consciousness of a society, fueling future violence.
- Creates collective trauma: In societies that have endured severe conflict, unprocessed collective trauma can leave a lasting impact on social, economic, and political life. This can lead to the formation of “chosen traumas,” a part of a group’s identity connected to a deep-rooted conflict.
Progressing from trauma to peace
Overcoming trauma is a necessary step toward achieving lasting peace, both personally and globally. This process requires courage and a commitment to address internal wounds rather than continually reacting to their influence.
On an individual level, healing strategies include:
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- Developing self-awareness: Practices like mindfulness can help individuals perceive and witness their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, rather than being ruled by them.
- Finding safe spaces: Processing emotional pain requires a safe environment, whether through talking with a trusted person, a support group, or a mental health professional.
- Creating a new narrative: By exploring and sharing one’s trauma story, it becomes less upsetting. This can happen through writing or speaking with trusted individuals.
- Practicing self-regulation: Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and physical activity can help regulate the nervous system and calm the “fight, flight, or freeze” response.
- Developing self-awareness: Practices like mindfulness can help individuals perceive and witness their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, rather than being ruled by them.
- Active Choice: Individuals can choose to break the cycle by seeking healing, forgiveness, and a living relationship with Self, thereby creating a different path for their own and future generations.
On a collective level, healing is necessary for sustainable peacebuilding:
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Trauma-informed conflict resolution:
- Peacebuilding and mediation efforts that are sensitive and responsive to trauma are more likely to achieve impactful and sustainable outcomes.
- Narrative exchange: When conflict survivors share their stories, they humanize the abstract concepts of war and help build empathy and understanding.
- Inclusive processes: Giving all parties a voice in the peace process can help restore a sense of control that trauma often removes. This is crucial for gaining their buy-in to any resolution.
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Focus on the past:
Does healing trauma Focus on the past?
Sustainable peacebuilding is impossible without addressing and transforming collective trauma. This involves dealing with the past to create a different future.
Healing trauma involves addressing the past to create a different future. Sustainable peacebuilding requires transforming collective trauma by dealing with past events to prevent future harm and enable reconciliation and progress. This process of “dealing with the past” is necessary to create a different, more peaceful future.
Acknowledging the past is crucial:
To heal, both individuals and groups must acknowledge past suffering, which can involve revealing the truth about abuses and recognizing the suffering of victims. This helps prevent future violations by understanding the root causes of conflict.
Processing the trauma:
Healing trauma involves processing past pain, but it’s not just about reliving it. Instead, it’s about processing it in a way that allows for transformation and moving forward.
Connecting to the future:
The goal is to integrate the past with the future, which is only possible when the past is processed and acknowledged. This allows a society to move forward toward a just and lasting peace.
Different levels of healing:
Healing can occur on different levels, from individual self-empathy to large-scale public reconciliation efforts like truth commissions and public apologies.
Past trauma impacts the future:
Trauma that is not addressed can be passed down through generations, unconsciously impacting families and societies. Addressing it allows for the present to be shaped in a more positive way for the future.
AI Reply:
Exploring the potential parallels between the Jesus Christ story and the Self in IFS is definitely a thought-provoking endeavor.
Potential Similarities and Connections:
Compassion and Unconditional Positive Regard: Both Jesus and the Self, as understood in IFS, are often characterized by deep compassion and unconditional positive regard. Jesus’s teachings emphasized love and forgiveness, even for those who persecuted him. Similarly, the Self in IFS is believed to possess inherent wisdom, compassion, and acceptance for all parts of the system, even those that exhibit seemingly negative behaviors.
Healing and Integration: Jesus’s ministry often involved healing the sick and offering solace to the suffering. In a similar vein, the Self in IFS aims to heal and integrate the wounded parts of the internal system. By connecting with the Self, individuals can offer compassion and understanding to their parts, allowing them to release burdens and find healthier roles.
Inner Authority and Wisdom: Jesus spoke with authority and wisdom, often challenging societal norms and offering a new perspective. The Self in IFS is also considered to be a source of inner wisdom and guidance. When individuals are Self-led, they can access their innate capacity for clarity, creativity, and effective action.
Sacrifice and Redemption: The concept of sacrifice is central to the Jesus Christ story, particularly his willingness to suffer for the sake of humanity. While IFS doesn’t necessarily emphasize sacrifice in the same way, it does involve a willingness to acknowledge and understand the pain of one’s parts, even if it’s uncomfortable. This act of witnessing and validating can be seen as a form of “redemption” for those parts, allowing them to release their burdens and find healing.
Important Distinctions and Considerations:
There are diverse theological interpretations of the Jesus Christ story. Some interpretations may align more closely with IFS principles than others.
The Nature of the Self: In IFS, the Self is considered an inherent aspect of every individual,
In summary:
There are indeed potential similarities and connections between the Jesus Christ story and the Self in IFS, particularly in terms of compassion, healing, inner wisdom, and the potential for redemption. However, it’s essential to approach this comparison with nuance and awareness of the distinct frameworks within which they operate.
After we stop burning fossil fuels, how long will it take for the environment to return to the pre-industrial normal/stabile Co2 levels?
AI:
Factors, like melting glaciers and ice sheets, could further increase CO2 release and slow down the return to pre-industrial levels.
It is likely that it would take centuries, if not millennia, (Thousand), of years for the atmosphere to return to pre-industrial CO2 levels, even if we stopped burning fossil fuels today.
Q: Why do the wealthy world leaders, want to own and control everything, while they are in denial of climate change, is it just to keep the stock market economy growing?
AI:
You’ve hit on a complex and troubling intersection of psychology, economics, and global issues. Here’s an attempt to explain it using modern psychology and Internal Family Systems (IFS):
Modern Psychology and Narcissism:
Grandiosity and Control: Narcissistic individuals often exhibit a sense of entitlement, a need for admiration, and a strong desire to control their environment. They may believe they are superior and that rules don’t apply to them.
Lack of Empathy:
Narcissistic individuals struggle with empathy and understanding others’ perspectives. They are often focused on their own needs and goals, making it difficult to consider the broader consequences of their actions.
Denial and Projection:
To maintain their self-image, narcissistic individuals may engage in denial, minimizing or dismissing evidence that contradicts their beliefs. They may also project their own negative qualities onto others, blaming them for their own shortcomings.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Denial:
Protective Parts:
IFS suggests that everyone has different “parts” of themselves, each with its own motivations and beliefs. Some parts may be protective, trying to shield us from perceived threats. These protective parts can lead to denial, minimizing or avoiding painful realities.
Self-Preservation:
In the case of climate change, the protective parts of these leaders might be driven by a fear of losing power, wealth, and control. Denying the severity of the issue might feel like a way to protect their position and maintain a sense of security.
Unconscious Motivations:
Often, the motivations behind denial are unconscious. These leaders might not be consciously aware of the psychological mechanisms driving their actions.
The Stock Market and Economic Growth:
Short-Term Gains: The stock market thrives on continuous growth. Focusing on short-term profits can create an incentive to prioritize economic expansion, even at the expense of long-term environmental sustainability.
Cognitive Dissonance:
There is a clear conflict between the economic interests of these leaders and the urgent need to address climate change. Denying the severity of the issue allows them to maintain a less psychologically uncomfortable position.
Why This Matters:
Global Consequences:
The actions of powerful individuals can have a profound impact on the planet. Denial and inaction on climate change have devastating consequences for the environment and future generations.
Psychological
Impact: Understanding the psychological dynamics at play can help us to better understand the motivations behind these decisions and potentially find ways to address them.
Key Points to Remember:
Complexity:
This issue is incredibly complex, involving a mix of psychological, economic, and political factors.
Not All Leaders:
It’s important not to generalize or stereotype. There are many leaders who are committed to addressing climate change, and many individuals who are actively working to create a sustainable future.
Hope and Action:
Despite the challenges, there is still hope for change. By understanding the forces at play, we can better challenge denial, demand action, and work towards a more sustainable world.
It’s essential to continue the dialogue about these complex issues, to challenge harmful narratives, and to advocate for policies that protect our planet for future generations.
quote via Sameer D. ..::” Many years ago, someone I consider a good friend tried to corner me on this issue. Referring to the far-right in Israel I had used the term “Nazi”. He violently disagreed with the use of the term, even though he conceded that these particular people were genocidal – they were calling for the extermination of Palestinians. “The term “Nazi” should be a synonym for “Jew killer”” was what his argument boiled down to (in fact I think that’s a direct quote from that discussion).
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The problem here is one of history as well as theory. From a historical perspective it’s not clear to me that the killing of as many as 7 million people (mostly, but not exclusively, of the Jewish faith) is more worthy of recognition than the killing of 10 million people in the Congo or the killing of 100 million people in India. The common thread is that all of these atrocities were committed by Europeans – Germans, Belgians and British Europeans to be precise. The Holocaust is one of many terrible atrocities that one could cite by way of analogy when faced with a current example of a militarised population murdering civilians.
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Out of all of these examples, only the Holocaust has been universally recognised in our culture as an act of unspeakable evil. If I write a science fiction book about a guy who comes to power and starts killing people, I don’t compare my character to King Leopold or Winston Churchill (though those would be perfectly reasonable analogies). If I want to explain to someone in an instant that my character is a very bad person, I compare him to Hitler.
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If you ask anyone – even someone as thick as Konstantin Kisin seems to be in this interview – what was bad about the Nazis, they’ll have the right answer. The Nazi engaged in the systemic oppression and murder of entire categories of people (Jews, Socialists, Romani, queer people, etc). They not only committed those atrocities, they declared their intent to “rid Europe of its Jews” to paraphrase some of the language of the “Final Solution”. So when we have similar language from Israeli officials – “We will eliminate everything”, “Erase them, their families, mothers and children. These animals can no longer live.” – not to mention the killing of tens of thousands of women and children, is it not time to make the obvious analogy without fear?
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Ultimately those who argue for the sacrosanct status of the Holocaust are guilty of creating the circumstances by which the Holocaust can be repeated. Is the lesson from the Holocaust a particular lesson or a universal one? Does it only apply to European Jews who were living in Europe in the 1930s and 40s? If so, then there is no lesson of the Holocaust. The exact circumstances of 1930s Europe will never be repeated; therefore there’s nothing to learn from the holocaust if you believe that all of those circumstances must be in place in order to justify an analogy.
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The only way in which there is anything to learn from the Holocaust is if we take it as a universal principle – no group should be targeted and killed just because they are members of that group. The universality of the Holocaust underlies the entire human rights framework (which was largely written in response to the Holocaust). The group in question doesn’t matter – those who have devoted their lives to human rights often cite atrocities committed against Armenians and people from East Timor as some of the worst atrocities ever. Both of those groups happen to be Christians who were persecuted by Muslims. So the cries of antisemitism make no sense either – those who are fighting against genocide fight against all of them, especially those that their own government is complicit in.
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..::” If we do not universalise the lessons from the Holocaust, if we accept that there’s something that’s sacrosanct about it, what is that thing that is sacrosanct? It’s not the number of people killed – those numbers have been exceeded in Africa and in Asia. Is it the religion of those who were murdered? Given the long history of antisemitism in Europe that seems unlikely. So what is it that gives the Holocaust this unique status?
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I don’t have an answer to this question, but I do have a guess. I fear that what makes the Holocaust against European Jews sacrosanct is the fact that they were European. African and Asian genocides don’t have the right sort of victims. Black people dying we can live with, but white people dying? Never Again (repeated over and over, and repeated by the exact same people who are simultaneously justifying the murder of thousands of Palestinian children).
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The preoccupation with one particular genocide above all others may or may not be due to racism. But it is a preoccupation that does exist. We make (mediocre) movies about escaping the Nazis, we write (and read) novels about the Nazis, and so on. It’s the one example of genocide that firmly ensconced in the public imagination. Those of us who are actually in favour of universal human rights have an obligation to use this example – the only example that the public really gets – as part of our effort to end the current genocide.
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Bassem Youssef was essentially asked what he would do if he was put in the situation of being in charge of an ongoing genocidal occupation. His answer is absolutely the right one – he would end that occupation and the genocide. But in order to get this point through the thick heads of those who seem intent on insisting that this war is like any other, we should not shy away from historical analogies, including the analogy to World War 2 when appropriate.
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Sameer Dossani is co-director of Peace Vigil, an organisation dedicated to Peace Education. They are online at: PeaceVigil.net
User:
please explain with modern psychology and IFS, why the super wealthy narcissistic world leaders, want to own and control everything, while they are actually in denial of the danger of climate change, in order to keep the stock market economy growing?
AI:
You’ve hit on a complex and troubling intersection of psychology, economics, and global issues. Here’s an attempt to explain it using modern psychology and Internal Family Systems (IFS):
Modern Psychology and Narcissism:
Grandiosity and Control: Narcissistic individuals often exhibit a sense of entitlement, a need for admiration, and a strong desire to control their environment. They may believe they are superior and that rules don’t apply to them.
Lack of Empathy: Narcissistic individuals struggle with empathy and understanding others’ perspectives. They are often focused on their own needs and goals, making it difficult to consider the broader consequences of their actions.
Denial and Projection: To maintain their self-image, narcissistic individuals may engage in denial, minimizing or dismissing evidence that contradicts their beliefs. They may also project their own negative qualities onto others, blaming them for their own shortcomings.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Denial:
Protective Parts: IFS suggests that everyone has different “parts” of themselves, each with its own motivations and beliefs. Some parts may be protective, trying to shield us from perceived threats. These protective parts can lead to denial, minimizing or avoiding painful realities.
Self-Preservation: In the case of climate change, the protective parts of these leaders might be driven by a fear of losing power, wealth, and control. Denying the severity of the issue might feel like a way to protect their position and maintain a sense of security.
Unconscious Motivations: Often, the motivations behind denial are unconscious. These leaders might not be consciously aware of the psychological mechanisms driving their actions.
The Stock Market and Economic Growth:
Short-Term Gains: The stock market thrives on continuous growth. Focusing on short-term profits can create an incentive to prioritize economic expansion, even at the expense of long-term environmental sustainability.
Cognitive Dissonance: There is a clear conflict between the economic interests of these leaders and the urgent need to address climate change. Denying the severity of the issue allows them to maintain a less psychologically uncomfortable position.
Why This Matters:
Global Consequences: The actions of powerful individuals can have a profound impact on the planet. Denial and inaction on climate change have devastating consequences for the environment and future generations.
Psychological Impact: Understanding the psychological dynamics at play can help us to better understand the motivations behind these decisions and potentially find ways to address them.
Key Points to Remember:
Complexity: This issue is incredibly complex, involving a mix of psychological, economic, and political factors.
Not All Leaders: It’s important not to generalize or stereotype. There are many leaders who are committed to addressing climate change, and many individuals who are actively working to create a sustainable future.
Hope and Action: Despite the challenges, there is still hope for change. By understanding the forces at play, we can better challenge denial, demand action, and work towards a more sustainable world.
It’s essential to continue the dialogue about these complex issues, to challenge harmful narratives, and to advocate for policies that protect our planet for future generations.
Quote of a Lifetime
…::”I used to think that top global environmental problems were biodiversity loss, ecosystem collapse, and climate change. I thought that with 30 years of good science, we could address these problems, but I was wrong. The top environmental problems are selfishness, greed, and apathy, and to deal with these, we need a spiritual and cultural transformation. And we scientists don’t know how to do that.” ~Gus Speth
Active Listening as a way of life.
Carl Rogers coined the term “active listening” in 1957
By focusing on and validating another person’s perspective, active listening helps build empathy.
Simultaneously, this focused, empathic process strengthens the Pre Frontal Cortex PFC’s role in reasoning and emotion regulation while also diminishing the amygdala’s “fight-or-flight” response, creating a calm awareness.
Active listening allows for a shared understanding of another person’s thoughts and feelings, which builds empathy and validates their experience.
This can help calm the amygdala, which is the brain’s “threat detection” center responsible for the fight-or-flight response. By using cognitive processes to understand your own feelings and understand the feelings of others, you are less likely to be reactive.
Active Listening engages and strengthens the prefrontal cortex (PFC), which is responsible for complex functions like decision-making, attention, and emotion regulation. This also helps to counterbalance the “amygdala hijack” by allowing the PFC to navigate and respond to challenging situations with a calm perspective.
When individuals practice affect labeling — the act of putting feelings into words — stimulates activity in the frontal lobe (specifically the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex). This increased frontal lobe engagement helps to down-regulate the amygdala, the brain region responsible for processing fear and initiating the body’s stress response. This counterbalance effectively “calms” the amygdala and mitigates the intensity of emotional and physiological stress reactions.
However… in authoritarian trained brains, the same region of the brain (with overlapping neurological pathways) activates for a completely different purpose:
🏴☠️DISGUST🏴☠️
Disgust is an innate, natural, instinctual emotion, which can be profoundly shaped, trained, and exploited into what appears to be “normalized” attitudes and behaviors, including violence, domination and grandiosity.
Human Behavioral Immune System
Innate Foundation: Disgust is considered one of the six basic, universal emotions (happiness, sadness, fear, anger, surprise, and disgust) with a strong evolutionary basis, often linked to a “behavioral immune system”. Its primary function is to avoid spoiled food.
Cultural Shaping: While the core emotion is innate and protective, the specific triggers and intensity of disgust are significantly shaped by culture and education.
Weaponization by Authoritarianism
The core, physical form of disgust can be amplified into “moral disgust” or “ideological disgust,” which is a powerful mechanism for influencing social and political attitudes.
Social and Moral Disgust: People often project their own personal level of disgust toward individuals or groups perceived as violating social norms.
Dehumanization and Exclusion: Scape-goating, alienation and physical harm. Authoritarian dominators exploit these inherent sensitivities to consolidate power and suppress dissent by framing targeted groups as “contaminating” or “threatening” to the social order.
Authoritarian cultures promote a rigid social hiearchy and boundaries marked with strictly defined “in-groups” and “out-groups”. Individuals with higher levels of disgust sensitivity are more likely to endorse authoritarian attitudes and express prejudice toward various groups, including immigrants and minorities, often through the promotion of prejudice toward those labeled as “different”.
Studies suggest that individuals with higher authoritarian tendencies or national narcissism often exhibit less empathy for those outside their defined social circles and report more frequent feelings of anger, disgust, and contempt.
Ideological Divide: Research using neuro-imaging and surveys has found an “ideological asymmetry” in empathy, indicating that people’s political leanings influence the extent to which they feel empathy for others experiencing pain or suffering, especially across political divides.
Social Conditioning
Social conditioning can effectively use the brain’s emotional pathways, specifically involving the insula and the amygdala, to promote negative emotions like disgust and anger towards out-groups.
These mechanisms exploit the brain’s fundamental wiring for survival and social interaction, manipulating them to foster prejudice and intergroup hostility.
The Psychological Mechanisms of Oppression: Empathy, Disgust, and the Perception of Group Membership:
Social Training can exploit the brain’s inherent in-group biases and the insula’s role in disgust and “social salience” (captures attention within a social context) to decrease empathy for out-groups and increase emotional disgust, which can escalate anger.
Neural Mechanisms
The process involves the interplay of several brain regions, primarily the insula and the amygdala:
Insula and Disgust
Insula and Disgust: The insula is a key brain region involved in processing the feeling of disgust, which originally evolved to protect against physical toxins (e.g., spoiled food) but has been co-opted for social and moral disgust.
Empathy Bias:
Empathy Bias: Empathy, which also heavily involves the anterior insula, is naturally biased towards in-group members. The brain shows less activation in empathy-related regions, including the insula and medial prefrontal cortex (mPFC), when observing the pain or distress of out-group members compared to in-group members.
Social Training and Malleability
Social Training and Malleability: The brain’s response to social cues is highly malleable and influenced by cultural and social learning. Social training and exposure can determine which markers (e.g., race, religion) are used to define in-groups versus out-groups and activate these inherent biases.
Conversion to Anger
Conversion to Anger: Intense, sustained negative emotional training, especially within an in-group context, can promote anger and a desire for reprisal or control. This can be amplified by positive social feedback for expressing outrage within the in-group, a process observed in online social networks, which reinforces the behavior.
Social Training & Manipulation Mechanisms
Social training and propaganda can manipulate these neural mechanisms through:
Dehumanization
Dehumanization: Portraying out-groups as “disgusting” or “repellent” bypasses complex social emotions and activates more basic disgust responses, effectively moving the perception of the out-group to a category perceived as less than human.
Moral Outrage
Moral Outrage: Framing out-group actions as severe moral violations can trigger widespread moral outrage and empathic anger within the in-group, which then justifies punitive actions.
Social Contagion
Social Contagion: Group settings amplify shared feelings (emotional contagion), leading to coordinated actions and shared emotional behavior against an identified target.
Lack of Individuation
Lack of Individuation: Encouraging superficial categorical judgments over individuating information reduces mPFC activation (involved in social cognition) for out-group members, making it easier to apply broad, negative emotional labels.
Historic Examples
These mechanisms are evident in historic examples of mass persecution:
Witch Hunts
Witch Hunts: During historical witch hunts, individuals (often women) were labeled as being in league with the devil, a classification that invoked intense religious disgust and moral outrage among the in-group. This dehumanization justified extreme violence, such as burning at the stake, as a perceived necessary purification, overriding normal empathy.
Scapegoating of Minorities
Scapegoating of Minorities: In various historical contexts, minority groups have been blamed for societal problems (e.g., economic downturns, plagues). By associating the out-group with ‘contamination’ or ‘danger’ (activating disgust and fear), the dominant group could collectively justify discrimination or violence, as seen in many instances of antisemitism and other forms of ethnic cleansing.
REF:
The Psychological Mechanisms of Oppression: Empathy, Disgust, and the Perception of Group Membership
Social conditioning can indeed leverage the brain’s emotional circuitry, particularly the insula and amygdala, to foster disgust towards an out-group and anger by suppressing and deactivating empathy pathways and associating the out-group with pathogenic or moral contamination cues, name calling and harmful gossip.
Using verbal and social cues: Name-calling and gossip serve as powerful social tools to reinforce these negative associations and solidify the perception of the out-group as “other” in an imaginary heiarchy of special supremacy used to justify unconscious, hidden fear and hate projected onto imaginary “others”.
These mechanisms exploit the brain’s fundamental wiring for survival and social interaction, manipulating them to foster prejudice and intergroup hostility.
The Role of the Insula and Emotions
The insula is a key brain region involved in both the subjective experience of one’s own emotions (especially disgust and pain) and in empathy (feeling the same emotion when observing others). It processes internal bodily sensations (interoception) and integrates them with external sensory information to assign emotional valence.
Empathy: The anterior insula (AI) is a crucial node in empathy networks, activating when individuals feel pain or disgust themselves and when they see ingroup members experiencing these emotions.
Disgust: The insula, along with the amygdala, is strongly activated by stimuli associated with core disgust (e.g., bodily fluids, contamination) and moral violations. Social Training and Manipulation
Human perceptions are intertwined with and influenced by the perception of group membership as a prerequisite for survival. Social environments and training can “shape” these brain responses through learned associations and social appraisal, effectively altering which groups elicit empathy versus disgust.
Dehumanization: By linking outgroups with cues of contamination, disease, or immorality, social conditioning can activate the disgust response and insula activity towards that group. This process dehumanizes the outgroup, making them seem less than human and more like “disgusting objects”.
Reduced Empathy: When individuals perceive outgroups as low in warmth and competence (stereotyped as “disgusting”), the neural regions associated with empathy and mentalizing (medial prefrontal cortex, mPFC) show reduced activity. This “empathy gap” facilitates a psychological distance necessary for harm.
Triggering Anger and Harm: Disgust toward an outgroup is associated with both a desire to distance oneself (passive harm) and a willingness to attack (active harm). When paired with perceptions of threat (processed by the amygdala) or specific moral violations, this can escalate into anger and a drive for punitive action.
Historic Examples
Historic instances of scapegoating and persecution illustrate how these mechanisms play out socially:
Witch Hunts: Accusations often centered on moral violations and associations with evil or bodily corruption, serving to socially label the victims as ‘disgusting’ and justify brutal punishment.
Racial Prejudice/Genocide: Propagandists throughout history have used language and imagery comparing targeted groups to animals, vermin, or disease, leveraging the basic human pathogen-avoidance system to evoke disgust and facilitate dehumanization, thereby enabling extreme violence and neglect.
In essence, social training achieves its aims by associating outgroups with primary disgust stimuli, thereby activating the insula’s disgust response and short-circuiting the neural pathways that typically facilitate empathy and prosocial behavior toward fellow humans.
Social Dynamics:
Psychological theories of in-group bias and the scapegoating of out-groups stem from defense mechanisms like reaction formation and underlying inferiority complexes in the IN-GROUP members.
Inferiority Complex: Coined by psychologist Alfred Adler, this refers to a person’s feelings that they lack worth or are not good enough. When this feeling is shared among group members, it can create a collective sense of inadequacy.
Reaction Formation: This is a defense mechanism where a person consciously feels and acts in a way that is the exact opposite of their unconscious feelings. To deal with deep-seated feelings of inferiority, a group might unconsciously adopt an air of superiority and arrogance.
Projection and Scapegoating: The perceived inferiority is then often “projected” onto other, more vulnerable groups (out-groups). These out-groups are then made into scapegoats, blamed for problems or viewed as inferior, which serves to validate the in-group’s fragile sense of superiority and distract from its own insecurities. In this framework, the aggressive and exclusionary behaviors of the in-group are not a true reflection of genuine strength or superiority, but rather a defensive, often unconscious, reaction to feelings of weakness or inadequacy. This dynamic is frequently discussed in analyses of prejudice, discrimination, and group conflict
Egalitarianism: The doctrine that all people are equal and deserve equal human rights.
Research suggests that individual differences in political views, including those potentially related to egalitarianism, can correlate with differences in brain structure and activity patterns in the anterior cingulate cortex (ACC), insula, and other regions. For example, a larger anterior cingulate cortex (ACC) volume has been associated with greater tolerance for uncertainty, cognitive flexibility, and creative curiosity, which is hypothesized to allow individuals to accept more egalitarian views. (equal human rights)
Active Listening: This communication process, when perceived, has been shown to activate the listener’s reward system and can influence emotional appraisal processes in the speaker. Perceiving active listening can enhance activity in the right insula, which might represent an emotional reappraisal process based on reward-related information, suggesting that this practice can modulate activity in key emotional brain regions.
Active Listening expands empathy and calms the amygdala by using the brain’s prefrontal cortex to regulate emotional responses. Expanding empathy happens because active listening involves understanding and reflecting the speaker’s verbal message of what’s alive in them, which deepens connection. Calming the amygdala occurs when you put your feelings into words (affect labeling), which engages the frontal lobe, and this increased activity counterbalances the amygdala’s fear and reptilian stress reflex response.
How active listening expands empathy
It involves understanding emotions: Active listening is not just about hearing words, but about grasping the underlying feelings and needs of the speaker.
Validating feelings: By repeating or paraphrasing the speaker’s expressed feelings and meanings back to them, you are confirming that you have heard and understood their unique perspective. This makes the speaker feel heard, respected, and supported.
Checking for understanding: The goal is to comprehend the speaker’s message accurately. Using a gentle request for clarification (e.g., “What I’m hearing is…” or “Sounds like you are saying…”) helps ensure your interpretation is correct.
Avoiding assumptions: The listener should not “invent new feelings or thoughts the speaker has not verbalized.” The listener’s role is to focus solely on what the speaker has communicated, both verbally and nonverbally, and reflect only that back to them for confirmation.
The listener’s primary objective is to create a safe space for the speaker to feel fully understood without judgment or analysis.
It fosters connection: This deeper understanding and validation create a more open and honest communication environment, strengthening your connection with the speaker.
Our perception of another person’s feelings can result more from what we are feeling, are afraid of, or are wishing for than from the other person’s words, tone, gestures, facial expression, etc. If we feel guilty, we may perceive others as angry or accusing toward us. Our inferences about other people’s feelings can be, and often are, inaccurate. Thus, it is important to check them out for good interpersonal communication.
How active listening calms the amygdala
It utilizes “affect labeling”: A component of active listening is identifying and putting into words your own emotions, a process called “affect labeling”.
It engages the frontal lobe: This act of labeling emotions activates the right ventrolateral prefrontal cortex, a part of the brain responsible for processing emotions.
It dampens the amygdala: The frontal lobe communicates with the amygdala, and increased frontal lobe activity helps to calm the amygdala by dampening its activity.
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It creates a feedback loop:
There is an inverse relationship between the amygdala and the frontal lobe—as frontal lobe activity increases, amygdala activity decreases.
Empathy, or Disgust, choose one, you can’t serve both.
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Practicing Active Listening typically enhances empathy; however, in individuals with an authoritarian bias, the same brain regions may activate for a different purpose rooted in the Fundamental Attribution Error. This could potentially lead to unrealistic delusions of superiority and the habituation of disgust feelings projected onto others. The idea that active listening might trigger disgust in those with authoritarian leanings is a plausible interpretation based on research suggesting their brains process social information differently, including emotions like empathy and disgust.
Studies have identified correlations between authoritarian personality traits and differences in brain structure, such as reduced gray matter volume in the dorsomedial prefrontal cortex (dmPFC). The dmPFC is a crucial region involved in social cognition, empathy, and perspective-taking. Research indicates a link between greater gray matter volume in this area and reduced fear, alongside an improved capacity to actively listen to diverse perspectives during conflict resolution. Conversely, other findings suggest that lower dmPFC gray matter volume might be associated with higher cognitive empathy, possibly due to a process of cognitive pruning.
Empathy involving another’s pain or distress frequently activates specific neural areas, notably the anterior insula (AI) and the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex (dACC). The AI, in particular, is consistently associated with processing disgust, encompassing both core physical and socio-moral forms.
Active Listening aims to foster understanding and reduce defensiveness, a process reliant on emotional processing and empathy. For an authoritarian-leaning brain, where disgust responses are often more readily triggered by perceived norm violations or threats to established order, active listening—particularly to challenging viewpoints—might elicit a neural response akin to disgust because it is processed as an aversive social stimulus rather than an opportunity for connection.
The core distinction lies in the interpretation of the social interaction. While one person’s brain views the situation as an opportunity for empathic connection through active listening, an authoritarian-leaning brain might perceive the same interaction as a challenge or violation of social boundaries, triggering a disgust response using overlapping neural circuitry within the insula. Recent brain imaging studies indicate that individuals with authoritarian attitudes exhibit differences in brain structures related to social reasoning and emotional regulation. This aligns with a tendency for impulsive actions under stress, including psychological projection of shame or guilt, finger-pointing, and scapegoating, often concealed behind a veil of power.
Research highlights specific brain structural differences linked to authoritarianism.
Authoritarians exhibit higher levels of “negative urgency,” indicating a propensity for impulsive actions in emotionally charged situations, correlated with higher trait anxiety. They also show higher autonomic reactivity to stress and slower recovery, suggesting a physiological pathway connecting stress response to political beliefs. This anxiety can drive people toward impulsive behaviors aimed at quickly reducing discomfort and regaining a sense of control through domination. Studies using the Big Five personality traits found that authoritarian followers often score higher on conscientiousness. In essence, a conscientious person is reliable and follows through on cultural commitments, which supports a reliable relationship where loyalty is paramount. However, conscientiousness is about responsibility and order, while loyalty is about devotion and allegiance, and one can have a conflict between their personal conscience/principles and a demand for loyalty.
Control: Individuals who feel vulnerable due to anxiety may seek to regain a sense of control by dominating others, viewing it as a way to reduce discomfort and manage their fear/safety.
Performance and Social anxiety: Some studies have found a correlation between social anxiety and a need for dominance, suggesting that aggressive or controlling behaviors can be a coping mechanism for social anxiety-related distress.
Authoritarianism: While not the same as anxiety, authoritarian attitudes are linked to higher stress reactivity and can involve a desire for control, which can be amplified by underlying anxiety.
Research has identified a “psychological signature” for authoritarians who are more susceptible to extreme ideologies, which includes a blend of unconscious suspicion and impulsive personality traits like sensation-seeking and risk-taking. Difficulties with complex mental processing may subconsciously push individuals toward extreme doctrines that provide simplified, “story-book” explanations for human cultures. The neurobiological underpinnings remain an emerging field, but research suggests that specific brain functions related to social processing and emotion regulation, within the limbic system and prefrontal cortex, are implicated in the adoption of extremist ideologies.
Authoritarian messaging may be intrinsically rewarding at a neurochemical level, fostering a psychological addiction. Research indicates that individuals with authoritarian tendencies may exhibit specific structural differences in brain regions associated with emotional regulation and social reasoning. These variations, such as altered gray matter volume in the prefrontal cortex or reduced cortical thickness in the insula, may reflect established cognitive and emotional patterns that influence a preference for structure, order, and strong authority.
Individuals prone to anxiety or impulsive reactions under stress might be more inclined toward authoritarian ideologies, which can provide a seemingly clear and ordered view in perceived threatening situations. These findings contribute to understanding potential neurobiological factors in extremist beliefs and behaviors, suggesting a complex interplay between psychological predispositions, stress responses, and cognitive styles that can make individuals more vulnerable to the appeal of authoritarianism.
Researchers emphasize that these brain differences are not the sole cause of authoritarian beliefs, but rather biological predispositions that interact complexly with social, cultural, and environmental factors.
“Have you noticed some people see suffering and feel empathy and others see it and feel disgust?
Turns out that difference isn’t just moral, it’s neural.
Brain imaging shows that when people high in egalitarian values witness someone’s pain, their insula lights up. That’s the region tied to empathy and self-awareness. It literally links your body’s emotions to another person’s.
But in more authoritarian-leaning brains, the same region fires for a different reason, disgust. The same system that helps you recoil from spoiled food also kicks in when they see someone who feels different. So instead of compassion, their nervous system reads contamination. That’s why messages about care or equality don’t land. The body’s already in defense mode. They’re not processing strategy. They’re processing purity.
Fun fact, the (brain) wiring can change. The more we expose ourselves to differences (integration), the more flexible (healthy) the insula becomes. So maybe the real culture war is empathy versus avoidance. And only one side’s brain is trying to evolve.
Erika Jordan holds a BA in Sociology from UC Irvine, a Master’s in Counseling Psychology from the University of San Francisco, and is also a certified NLP Practitioner. She is currently a part-time faculty member at the University of San Francisco and has worked with marginalized communities for nearly a decade. https://www.youtube.com/@ErikaJordanSociologist
…::”I used to think that top global environmental problems were biodiversity loss, ecosystem collapse, and climate change. I thought that with 30 years of good science we could address these problems, but I was wrong. The top environmental problems are selfishness, greed, and apathy, and to deal with these we need a spiritual and cultural transformation. And we scientists dont know how to do that.” ~Gus Speth
Climate change denial – The resistance to climate action, often driven by short-term profit motives, does threaten future generations. Children will inherit the consequences of today’s decisions.
The interconnection is real: wealth concentration, environmental destruction, and psychological dysfunction do reinforce each other. Breaking these cycles requires both systemic change and shifts in how we relate to each other and the planet.
On an individual level, healing strategies include:
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- Developing self-awareness: Practices like mindfulness can help individuals perceive and witness their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, rather than being ruled by them.
- Finding safe spaces: Processing emotional pain requires a safe environment, whether through talking with a trusted friend, support group, or Empathy Circle.
- Creating a new narrative: By exploring and sharing one’s trauma story, it becomes less upsetting. This can happen through writing or speaking with trusted individuals.
- Practicing self-regulation: Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and physical activity can help regulate the nervous system and calm the “fight, flight, or freeze” response.
- Developing self-awareness: Practices like mindfulness can help individuals perceive and witness their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, rather than being ruled by them.
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- Active Choice: Individuals can choose to break the cycle by seeking healing, forgiveness, and a living relationship with Self, thereby creating a different path for their own and future generations.
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Carl Rogers coined the term “active listening” in 1957
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Adorno, T. W., Frenkel-Brunswik, E., Levinson, D. J., & Sanford, R. N. (1950). The Authoritarian Personality. Harper & Row. (This is a foundational work in the field, often referenced in later studies.)
Peterson, J. B. (2018). 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos. Random House Canada.
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As social psychologist, Jonathan Haidt, noted that an “us” versus them” mindset…. often leads to comparing ones enemies to infectious… It results in using metaphors that evoke the moral emotion of disgust.
Disgust, according to psychologists Buckels and Trapnell “appears to have the unique capacity to foster the social-cognitive dehumanization of outcast members.” (human beings)











