NVC is about connecting with ourselves and others from the heart. It’s about seeing the humanity in all of us. It’s about recognizing our commonalities and differences and finding ways to make life wonderful for all of us. https://www.cnvc.org
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The Conflict: Empathy vs. Managerial Action
Carl Rogers’ person-centered approach (PCA) in a workplace setting encounters significant challenges when dealing with traditional management practices, particularly regarding disciplinary actions like firing an employee. The core tension lies between the manager’s need for performance metrics and the PCA’s emphasis on trust, empathy, and unconditional positive regard.
Managers often operate from a framework of performance, efficiency, and clear standards, where removing an underperforming or non-compliant individual is a necessary solution for the team’s overall productivity. This is a results-oriented, often “biomedical” or “mechanistic” approach to organizational health.
Rogers’ approach, in contrast, posits that an environment of unconditional positive regard (accepting individuals without judgment), empathy, and congruence (genuineness) is necessary for people to feel safe enough to grow, self-actualize, and find their own solutions. In the specific scenario you described:
Manager’s Perspective: Removing an individual is a necessary managerial function (a “gatekeeping” role) to maintain standards and ensure the team’s success.
Rogers’ Perspective: Unconditional acceptance and empathy are paramount for fostering a secure environment. Terminating someone without fully understanding their perspective, involving them in the solution-finding process, and providing an environment for potential growth would violate the trust of the entire group. The remaining employees would perceive a lack of fairness and a risk to their own security, leading to a breakdown in psychological safety and trust.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8950126/#:~:text=5.,as%20a%20barrier%20to%20PCC.
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What Active Listening is not:
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- Jumping in with “help” in the form of “good advice”
- Questioning to get at the “facts”
- Reassuring to make them “feel better”
Simply put,
roadblocks take the conversational ball
out of the speaker’s hands
and puts it firmly into the listener’s.
The 12 Roadblocks to Communication:
https://www.gordonmodel.com/work-roadblocks.php
..::”Nobody in the world, nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of people who are oppressing them.
We Think We Listen, but that might be a thought!
https://empathymatters.org/now/active-listening-carl-rogers/
Understanding this could greatly reduce human suffering.
“The finest emotion of which we are capable is the mystic emotion. Herein lies the seed of all art and all true science. Anyone to whom this feeling is alien, who is no longer capable of wonderment and lives in a state of fear is already dead. ~Albert Einstein”Refusing humility traps you in delusion.♡ Love Albert Einstein … Only a comic book bible would suggest a cultish behavior to genoc~~ everyone else, but some special chosen ones? OMG
Imagine living on a planet where the rich get richer by indoctrinating the people to follow ancient dogma, repeating an ancient doctrine of genocide projected onto innocent children, again and again, the rich get richer, and the children receive brutal indoctrination instead of Living Their Sacred Free & Joyful Life.
Secret History: How Evil Triumphs:
