Do any kind of ethical instructions exist about applying NVC? 

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Since “NVC” (AKA: Self-Empathy) is our natural human language, so I get curious about “natural ethics”

Five ethical principles emerge as I consider this question:

1. 1. Nonviolence:  The “ethics of NVC” are first and foremost to intend no harm.  When harm occurs accidentally, NVC can be used for repair work and healing.

1. 1. Self-responsibility and freedom:  The “ethics of NVC” require self-responsibility.  I feel ___________ because I need _____________.  NVC, for me, is designed as a strategy to support me in connecting to my own feelings and needs and taking responsibility for them.  NVC is NOT designed to tell other people what they should or should not do.  NVC offers expanded choice, it does not limit choice.

1. 1. Interdependence:  The “ethics of NVC” require me to remember that my needs do not exist in a vacuum; rather my needs are interdependent with yours.  I do not want to get my needs met at your expense, nor do I want you to get your needs met at my expense.

1. 1. The Zero Step: The “ethics of NVC”  require me to remember the intention of NVC (to support a quality of connection that inspires compassionate giving and receiving) and the attention of NVC, the present moment.  My partner Jori and I use a nickname for this essential combination, the Zero Step.*** In other words, what comes before we “use” the model or the process?  This, for me is the whole key to NVC.  When I remember the Zero Step, all of the rest of NVC flows naturally.

1. Safety and Protection: Although the intention of NVC is connection, that connection can occur only if there is safety.  Thus, assessing safety and following up with protection, if needed, must come before connection.
   (i.e. the protective use of force.****)
   ~Marshall Rosenberg 
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NVC :: OFNR :: OBSERVATION♡, Feelings, Needs and Requests ♡

OBSERVATION♡ without evaluation consists of noticing concrete (real) things and actions around us. We learn to distinguish between judgment and what we sense in the PRESENT moment, and to simply OBSERVE what is there (right now).  

When you call yourself an Indian or a Muslim or a Christian or a European, or anything else, you are being violent. Do you see why it is violent? Because you are separating yourself from the rest of mankind. When you separate yourself by belief, by nationality, by tradition, it breeds violence. So a man who is seeking to understand violence does not belong to any country, to any religion, to any political party or partial system; he is concerned with the total understanding of mankind.”
~Krishnamurti

Marshall Rosenberg understood that INSTEAD OF “lashing out” or “withdrawing”, the willful use of our own internal empathic nature will give us a third option: Both an INTER and INTRA-personal connection of the kind most likely to lead to satisfying relationships and mutually agreeable strategies. 

REF: NonViolentCommunication.com