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text-align: left; border: thin solid black; padding: 3%; line-height: 170%; background-color: #ffffff;\">\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Often+self-empathy+comes+easy%2C+as+we+access+our+sensations%2C+emotions+and+needs%2C+to+attune+to+how+we+are.+However%2C+in+moments+of+conflict+or+reactivity+to+others%2C+we+may+find+ourselves+reluctant+to+access+an+intention+to+connect+compassionately%2C+and+we+may+falter+in+our+capacity+to+attend+to+the+present+moment.+Self-empathy+at+times+like+this+has+the+power+to+transform+our+disconnected+state+of+being+and+return+us+to+our+compassionate+intention+and+present-oriented+attention.+With+practice%2C+many+people+find+that+self-empathy+alone+sometimes+resolves+inner+conflicts+and+conflicts+with+others+as+it+transforms+our+experience+of+life.&amp;oq=Often+self-empathy+comes+easy%2C+as+we+access+our+sensations%2C+emotions+and+needs%2C+to+attune+to+how+we+are.+However%2C+in+moments+of+conflict+or+reactivity+to+others%2C+we+may+find+ourselves+reluctant+to+access+an+intention+to+connect+compassionately%2C+and+we+may+falter+in+our+capacity+to+attend+to+the+present+moment.+Self-empathy+at+times+like+this+has+the+power+to+transform+our+disconnected+state+of+being+and+return+us+to+our+compassionate+intention+and+present-oriented+attention.+With+practice%2C+many+people+find+that+self-empathy+alone+sometimes+resolves+inner+conflicts+and+conflicts+with+others+as+it+transforms+our+experience+of+life.&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOdIBCDExNzhqMGo3qAIAsAIA&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;source=chrome.ob&amp;ie=UTF-8\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Self-Empathy First<\/a>\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Barbara+Deming%E2%80%99s+essay%2C+Revolution+and+Equilibrium%3B&amp;oq=Barbara+Deming%E2%80%99s+essay%2C+Revolution+and+Equilibrium%3B&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIHCAEQIRigATIHCAIQIRigAdIBBzU5MmowajSoAgOwAgHxBTcIiVaMLOYR&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;source=chrome.ob&amp;ie=UTF-8\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Activist and author: <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Barbara Deming<\/span><\/a><br \/><\/span><\/h3>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">(1917\u20131984)<br \/><br \/>\n<div style=\"border-radius: 23px; 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Like it or not, we are part of one another.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-34eb847 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"34eb847\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d5e8bbb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d5e8bbb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"border-radius: 23px; text-align: left; border: thin solid black; padding: 3%; line-height: 170%; background-color: #ffffff;\">\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Often+self-empathy+comes+easy%2C+as+we+access+our+sensations%2C+emotions+and+needs%2C+to+attune+to+how+we+are.+However%2C+in+moments+of+conflict+or+reactivity+to+others%2C+we+may+find+ourselves+reluctant+to+access+an+intention+to+connect+compassionately%2C+and+we+may+falter+in+our+capacity+to+attend+to+the+present+moment.+Self-empathy+at+times+like+this+has+the+power+to+transform+our+disconnected+state+of+being+and+return+us+to+our+compassionate+intention+and+present-oriented+attention.+With+practice%2C+many+people+find+that+self-empathy+alone+sometimes+resolves+inner+conflicts+and+conflicts+with+others+as+it+transforms+our+experience+of+life.&amp;oq=Often+self-empathy+comes+easy%2C+as+we+access+our+sensations%2C+emotions+and+needs%2C+to+attune+to+how+we+are.+However%2C+in+moments+of+conflict+or+reactivity+to+others%2C+we+may+find+ourselves+reluctant+to+access+an+intention+to+connect+compassionately%2C+and+we+may+falter+in+our+capacity+to+attend+to+the+present+moment.+Self-empathy+at+times+like+this+has+the+power+to+transform+our+disconnected+state+of+being+and+return+us+to+our+compassionate+intention+and+present-oriented+attention.+With+practice%2C+many+people+find+that+self-empathy+alone+sometimes+resolves+inner+conflicts+and+conflicts+with+others+as+it+transforms+our+experience+of+life.&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOdIBCDExNzhqMGo3qAIAsAIA&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;source=chrome.ob&amp;ie=UTF-8\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Self-Empathy First<\/a>\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<div class=\"n6owBd awi2gc\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCAcQAA\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><mark class=\"HxTRcb\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-wiz-uids=\"hsASgf_k\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQuJAPegoIAggACAEIBxAB\" data-complete=\"true\" data-sfc-inited=\"2\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 500; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(0, 29, 53);\"><span data-subtree=\"aimfl,mfl\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 500; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(0, 29, 53);\">Self-empathy is a cornerstone of <\/span><span class=\"\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-sfc-inited=\"2\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 500; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(0, 29, 53);\"><a class=\"H23r4e\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cnvc.org\/about\/purpose-of-nvc\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQy_kOegoIAggACAEIBxAC\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCAcQAg\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 500; margin: 0px; text-decoration: underline 1px rgb(26, 13, 171); border-bottom: 0px rgb(26, 13, 171);\">Nonviolent Communication<\/a><!--TgQPHd||[[&quot;https:\/\/www.cnvc.org\/about\/purpose-of-nvc&quot;,null,null,[null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,[{&quot;1218&quot;:[16]}]],16,null,&quot;The purpose of NVC&quot;,&quot;Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a process that helps people achieve consciousness and relate to others in a way that is compassionate, truthful, and peaceful. NVC is based on the following principles: * **Connection first** When conflict arises, NVC seeks empathic connection before solutions. * **The need for contribution** NVC believes that contributing to the well-being of others is one of the most powerful forces of human motivation. * **Interdependence** NVC believes that human beings are interdependent and need one another to live and thrive.&quot;,&quot;https:\/\/encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com\/images?q\\u003dtbn:ANd9GcSZogON8gVzOYcjD5-k-LVcOOh8INIXusLbvrPUqzxDQgcZiflqaDkZYFQ20xpXWsZ3fIqs40Qzp6g2iv8&quot;,&quot;Center for Nonviolent Communication&quot;,&quot;https:\/\/encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com\/faviconV2?url\\u003dhttps:\/\/www.cnvc.org\\u0026client\\u003dAIM\\u0026size\\u003d128\\u0026type\\u003dFAVICON\\u0026fallback_opts\\u003dTYPE,SIZE,URL&quot;,[[1784654737292757,137631959,3640959311],null,null,null,null,[[2,0,1,5]]],null,&quot;2f523764-1859-4d31-9ad0-9837ade706da&quot;]]--><\/span>, grounding you in your own feelings and needs<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/mark>. This internal connection prevents projection, relieves emotional tension, and allows you to return to relationships with clarity, empathy, and compassionate intention. [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nasco.coop\/sites\/default\/files\/srl\/Nonviolent_communication.pdf\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/empathic-intervision\/202007\/the-self-in-empathy-self-empathy\">2<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<div class=\"n6owBd awi2gc\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCAoQAA\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><br \/>The following core practices anchor self-empathy during moments of conflict and reactivity: [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellnesswithin.org\/blog\/2017\/08\/what-is-self-empathy\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/baynvc.org\/basics-of-nonviolent-communication\/\">2<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<div class=\"Fsg96\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-sfc-inited=\"2\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIDRAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCA0QAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"otQkpb\" role=\"heading\" aria-level=\"3\" data-animation-nesting=\"\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; margin: 24px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(0, 29, 53);\"><br \/>1. Observe Without Judgment<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIDxAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCA8QAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"n6owBd awi2gc\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCA8QAQ\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Instead of analyzing what is wrong with you or the other person, focus purely on observable facts (e.g., &#8220;I am raising my voice,&#8221; rather than &#8220;I am a terrible person.&#8221;). [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.pcpsychservices.com\/post\/mastering-nonviolent-communication-empowering-self-advocacy-and-enhancing-relationships\">1<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIERAB\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBEQAQ\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"Z1qcYe\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBEQAg\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><span class=\"iNqyIf\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><strong class=\"Yjhzub\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Actionable Step:<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/strong> Write down exactly what happened, removing all blame.<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/span> [<a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/29056619\/\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/link.springer.com\/article\/10.1007\/s12671-021-01695-5\">2<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<ul class=\"KsbFXc U6u95\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQ-7AUegoIAggACAEIERAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBEQAA\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/ul>\n<div class=\"Fsg96\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-sfc-inited=\"2\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIFBAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBQQAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"otQkpb\" role=\"heading\" aria-level=\"3\" data-animation-nesting=\"\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; margin: 24px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(0, 29, 53);\">2. Identify Your Feelings<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIFhAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBYQAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"n6owBd awi2gc\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBYQAQ\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Notice the emotions arising within you without trying to suppress or fix them.<br \/>[<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=UmUCfbvpjg4&amp;t=529\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.natajsawagner.com\/blog\/self-compassion-how-not-to-be-hard-on-yourself\">2<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIGBAB\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBgQAQ\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"Z1qcYe\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBgQAg\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><span class=\"iNqyIf\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><strong class=\"Yjhzub\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Actionable Step:<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/strong> Use specific, objective language (e.g., &#8220;I feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or frustrated&#8221;) rather than blaming language (e.g., &#8220;I feel like I am being attacked&#8221;).<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/span> [<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=UmUCfbvpjg4&amp;t=529\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/ahead-app.com\/blog\/Mindfulness\/self-awareness-in-relationships-3-ways-to-communicate-your-feelings\">2<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/richard-reid.com\/resilience-and-emotional-intelligence-the-power-of-self-awareness\/\">3<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/medium.com\/@pam-coburn-litvak\/diffusing-conflict-during-crisis-part-4-the-fine-art-of-talking-a26b5f91cded\">4<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/smithpsychotherapygroup.com\/uncategorized\/communication-is-key-how-to-communicate-effectively-with-friends-families-partners-and-strangers\/\">5<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<ul class=\"KsbFXc U6u95\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQ-7AUegoIAggACAEIGBAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBgQAA\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/ul>\n<div class=\"Fsg96\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-sfc-inited=\"2\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIGxAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBsQAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"otQkpb\" role=\"heading\" aria-level=\"3\" data-animation-nesting=\"\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; margin: 24px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(0, 29, 53);\">3. Uncover Your Needs<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIHBAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBwQAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"n6owBd awi2gc\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCBwQAQ\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Acknowledge that your feelings stem from unfulfilled universal needs (e.g., the need for respect, understanding, safety, or rest). [<a href=\"https:\/\/nonviolentcommunication.com\/learn-nonviolent-communication\/nvc-empathy\/\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/uw.pressbooks.pub\/traumainformedlibrarianship\/chapter\/open-empathetic-flexible-communication\/\">2<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cherrytreecentre.com\/the-power-of-nonviolent-communication-for-couples\/\">3<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/wasatchfamilytherapy.com\/blog\/exploring-emotionally-focused-therapy-eft-and-unmet-needs-in-relationships\">4<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.raftcares.org\/resources\/community-blog\/cultivating-self-empathy\/\">5<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIIxAB\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCMQAQ\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"Z1qcYe\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCMQAg\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><span class=\"iNqyIf\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><strong class=\"Yjhzub\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Actionable Step:<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/strong> Ask yourself, &#8220;What deeper need is driving my current reaction?&#8221; You can explore resources on this approach via the <span class=\"\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-sfc-inited=\"2\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><a class=\"H23r4e\" href=\"https:\/\/nonviolentcommunication.com\/learn-nonviolent-communication\/nvc-conflict-resolution\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQy_kOegoIAggACAEIIxAD\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCMQAw\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 500; margin: 0px; text-decoration: underline 1px rgb(26, 13, 171); border-bottom: 0px rgb(26, 13, 171);\">PuddleDancer Press NVC Conflict Resolution Guide<\/a><!--TgQPHd||[[&quot;https:\/\/nonviolentcommunication.com\/learn-nonviolent-communication\/nvc-conflict-resolution\/&quot;,null,null,[null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,null,[{&quot;1218&quot;:[16]}]],16,null,&quot;Nonviolent Communication Conflict Resolution - PuddleDancer Press&quot;,&quot;This explanation is oversimplified but provides a sense of the process: We take turns listening to and hearing each other, and confirming understanding as all parties move forward. As the conversation winds deeper, more significant layers of meaning are surfaced, mutual understanding begins to grow, and slowly the conflict begins to resolve itself. As you practice Nonviolent Communication skills within this structural format, focus on the connection first. Take your time to make sure the parties understand each other. And keep in mind that understanding is different from agreement. Once people have arrived at mutual understanding, then the search for solutions or resolution is much more likely to be collaborative!&quot;,&quot;https:\/\/encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com\/images?q\\u003dtbn:ANd9GcTxyounnoutUH9RnpTQbyLMdjaWs1DrQbBebSIDFaA2-hvHv7_f_ufmPGcl6l4yXfn9C125ux-yhT11tlc&quot;,&quot;PuddleDancer Press&quot;,&quot;https:\/\/encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com\/faviconV2?url\\u003dhttps:\/\/nonviolentcommunication.com\\u0026client\\u003dAIM\\u0026size\\u003d128\\u0026type\\u003dFAVICON\\u0026fallback_opts\\u003dTYPE,SIZE,URL&quot;,[[1784654737292757,137631959,3640959311],null,null,null,null,[[2,0,1,32]]],null,&quot;06615ce2-f536-4c78-99c4-e0b946aabef7&quot;]]--><\/span>.<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/span> [<a href=\"https:\/\/nonviolentcommunication.com\/learn-nonviolent-communication\/nvc-conflict-resolution\/\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellnesswithin.org\/blog\/2017\/08\/what-is-self-empathy\">2<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/nonviolentcommunication.com\/learn-nonviolent-communication\/nvc-conflict-resolution\/\">3<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<ul class=\"KsbFXc U6u95\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQ-7AUegoIAggACAEIIxAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCMQAA\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/ul>\n<div class=\"Fsg96\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-sfc-inited=\"2\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIJBAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCQQAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"otQkpb\" role=\"heading\" aria-level=\"3\" data-animation-nesting=\"\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 20px; font-weight: 600; margin: 24px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(0, 29, 53);\">4. Make Clear Requests<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIJhAA\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCYQAA\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<div class=\"n6owBd awi2gc\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCYQAQ\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 12px 0px 16px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Determine what actionable, positive steps you can take to fulfill your needs\u2014either by asking something of yourself or communicating a request to others.<br \/>[<a href=\"https:\/\/www.pcpsychservices.com\/post\/mastering-nonviolent-communication-empowering-self-advocacy-and-enhancing-relationships\">1<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wellnesswithin.org\/blog\/2017\/08\/what-is-self-empathy\">2<\/a>]<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-bfc=\"\" data-ved=\"2ahUKEwjV-6b9pOSVAxXXGDQIHU-hBNkQi4wTegoIAggACAEIJxAB\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCcQAQ\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">\n<ul>\n<li class=\"Z1qcYe\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCcQAg\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><span class=\"iNqyIf\" data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\"><strong class=\"Yjhzub\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 700; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">Actionable Step:<!--TgQPHd||[]--><\/strong> Identify what you can do immediately to regulate your nervous system.<br \/><br \/><\/span><\/li>\n<li data-sfc-cp=\"\" data-sfc-root=\"ep\" data-sfc-cb=\"\" data-hveid=\"CAIIAAgBCCcQAg\" data-complete=\"true\" data-copy-service-computed-style=\"font-family: &quot;Google Sans&quot;, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: 400; margin: 0px 0px 12px; text-decoration: none; border-bottom: 0px rgb(10, 10, 10);\">I take responsibility for my emotions but not yours, out of awareness that (a) our emotions are largely driven by our own internal processes and (b) taking responsibility for what is ours is ultimately empowering.\u00a0<br \/>\n<p>~Bob Wentworth<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/capitalnvc.net\/main\/comppractices\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">http:\/\/capitalnvc.net\/main\/comppractices\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.filmsforaction.org\/articles\/nvc-consciousness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/www.filmsforaction.org\/articles\/nvc-consciousness\/<\/a><\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ad23357 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"ad23357\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59dcdea elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"59dcdea\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"border-radius: 23px; text-align: left; border: thin solid black; padding: 3%; line-height: 170%; background-color: #ffffff;\">\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">NVC Consciousness<\/span><\/h2>\n<div class=\"clear-block\">\n<div id=\"node-510\" class=\"node\">\n<div class=\"content clear-block\">\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><i>by Bob Wentworth<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><br \/>\nOur way of being &#8212; the intentions, attitudes, and quality of the energy that we bring to an interaction &#8212; is more important than the particular words we choose to speak. The heart of Nonviolent Communication is not about speaking using a particular recipe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Rather it is about &#8220;being&#8221; a particular way. When one is being that way, one is said to be &#8220;in NVC consciousness.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What are the intentions and attitudes associated with NVC consciousness?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">There are different ways of describing these, but I&#8217;ll offer how I am currently thinking about the subject.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">When I am in NVC consciousness:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am aware of my longing for deeply satisfying human connections.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I believe that whoever I am interacting with is a human being with this same longing.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am connected to what ultimately matters to me.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am open to the wisdom of all parts of me, including my heart.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I realize that having a certain quality of connection in a conversation is important &#8212; without it, it is unlikely that anyone will hear what I say or that there will be a satisfying outcome.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am innocently curious about what is going on for each of us, yet undemanding in how I explore my curiosity.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I trust that there is a wonderful intention I can appreciate (an intention to meet a universal human need) behind anything that anybody does.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I know there would likely be a high cost to forcefully getting my way at your expense.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am aware that ultimately I am likely to be happier, and the relationship will be more sustainable, if both of us get our needs met.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am committed to allowing both of our needs to matter.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am aware of the value of making requests, either to further connection, or to invite clear, do-able actions.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I get that thinking things &#8220;should&#8221; be a particular way, or judging, blaming or labeling ourselves or others, lead straight to suffering &#8212; and I aim to gently reduce my feeding of these thoughts and energies, without judging them.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I am not attached to believing my thoughts, especially my judgments.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I get that we are all capable of feeling great joy in giving to one another &#8212; but only if we are able to freely decide whether to do so or not, without focusing on hope of reward or fear of punishment. I want people to have more opportunities to experience this joy.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I get that choosing to be vulnerable can be a form of strength, and may open up possibilities for deeper connections.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I take responsibility for my emotions but not yours, out of awareness that (a) our emotions are largely driven by our own internal processes and (b) taking responsibility for what is ours is ultimately empowering.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I take responsibility for getting my own needs met, and often do this by inviting but not demanding help from others.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I acknowledge that we are interdependent &#8212; we affect one another and we play a large role in meeting one another&#8217;s needs.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If a need is unmet, I know that I can enter into a healthy (and often sweet) mourning process if I connect to a visceral sense of the beauty of what I am longing for.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If a need is unmet, I aim to allow myself to experience this without creating suffering by judging and rejecting the unmet-ness.<\/span><\/li>\n\t<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I get that it is possible to have unmet needs and still be okay.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The short form is something like this:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><i>In NVC consciousness, I am open-hearted and self-responsible, hold judgments lightly, honor both your needs and mine, and am in touch with the beauty of the longings that are at the heart of our lives.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If we are firmly rooted in the consciousness, our words need not sound much like formal NVC and we can still reap NVC&#8217;s benefits. The significance of verbal recipes is that they can remind us of how we want to be and help others to hear our intentions. The recipes are valuable &#8212; but they are merely supports, not the essence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">On the other hand, if we speak words that perfectly follow the form of NVC, but our intentions and attitudes are off, then we are not likely to enjoy the results. In fact, others may have a profound dislike for being spoken to in this way. There are people who &#8220;loathe NVC&#8221; because they have experienced people trying to use the form of NVC while holding intentions and attitudes inconsistent with NVC. Too often, aversion to NVC may develop with those with whom we are closest, with whom it may be challenging to stay in NVC consciousness. Generally, it is helpful to focus on the consciousness more than the form. It is especially important to be rigorous about this with loved ones who haven&#8217;t yet been attracted to NVC.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Being &#8220;in NVC consciousness&#8221; is not all-or-nothing. The more we embody the intentions and attitudes, the more fully we will experience the fruits of this way of being. It may take many years to fully embody the consciousness. The good news is that every incremental step along the way is likely to be richly worthwhile. I hope we will offer ourselves patience and compassion as we practice and learn.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">May we all be in the world in ways that support mutual well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">~Bob Wentworth<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"http:\/\/capitalnvc.net\/main\/comppractices\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">http:\/\/capitalnvc.net\/main\/comppractices\u00a0<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a style=\"color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.filmsforaction.org\/articles\/nvc-consciousness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">https:\/\/www.filmsforaction.org\/articles\/nvc-consciousness\/<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Yi_Cj4W7WLI\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-gtm-yt-inspected-9=\"true\"><\/iframe><br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #000000;\">An interview with Dr. Bob Wentworth, Trainer, NVC<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-555ebbe e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"555ebbe\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-83e2c8e elementor-widget elementor-widget-shortcode\" data-id=\"83e2c8e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"shortcode.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shortcode\">\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"55573\" class=\"elementor elementor-55573\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-712ba1bf elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"712ba1bf\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6b938172 elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"6b938172\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\n<div style=\"width:330px;box-shadow: 5px 5px 5px #999999;border-radius: 20px; 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