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text-align: left; border: thin solid black; padding: 3%; margin: 1px; font-size: 120%; line-height: 180%; background-color: #ffffff;\">\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"> <b>\u201cHurt people hurt people.&#8221;\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<h4>&#8230; &#8220;That\u2019s how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation after generation.\u00a0 <br \/><br \/>See also: <a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/amalek\/\">Amalek<\/a><br \/><br \/>Break the chain today.\u00a0 Meet anger with empathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness.\u00a0 Greet grimaces with smiles.\u00a0 Forgive and forget about finding fault.\u00a0 Love is the weapon of the future.\u201d ~Yehuda Berg<\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The full quote expands on this idea, suggesting that to break the cycle, one should meet anger with empathy, contempt with compassion, and cruelty with kindness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This concept suggests that individuals who have experienced pain or trauma may unconsciously pass on that hurt to others, creating a cycle that can only be broken through a conscious choice to respond with compassion and forgiveness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The core idea: People who are in pain tend to inflict pain on others, passing on negative patterns across generations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The solution: The quote proposes a path to break this cycle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Meet anger with empathy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Respond to contempt with compassion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Counter cruelty with kindness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Let go of the need to find fault and practice forgiveness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The outcome: The quote ends with the powerful statement, &#8220;Love is the weapon of the future,&#8221; suggesting that love and compassion are the tools to stop this cycle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Yehuda Berg: was born in Israel, is the author of many books on Kabbalah. He led the Kabbalah Centre until 2014.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Philip Berg: Yehuda Berg&#8217;s father, who was an Israeli rabbi, founded the Kabbalah Centre in Israel and then moved to the United States.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Yehuda Berg grew up in a Jewish environment and received a kabbalistic education by his father and an orthodox rabbinic ordination from a rabbinic seminary in Israel. As an active contributor of the Kabbalah Centre since the 1990s, he has developed his own Kabbalah interpretation focusing on self-improvement and healing, and has coached many Kabbalah Centre students, including some celebrities. In 2004, Yehuda Berg became co-director of the Kabbalah Centre.\u00a0<br \/><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<h4>See also: <a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/amalek\/\">Amalek<\/a><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"border-radius: 20px; text-align: left; border: thin solid black; margin: 1px; line-height: 180%; font-weight: 600; background-color: #fae955; color: #000; font-size: 120%; padding: 3%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 15px; text-align: center;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 14pt;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Yehuda+Berg+left+the+Kabbalah+Teaching+Centre+due+to+a+sexual+harassment+lawsuit+filed+against+him+by+a+young+female+student+in+2014+Vicodin+alcohol\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">However, Yehuda Berg left the Kabbalah Teaching Centre due to a sexual harassment lawsuit filed against him by a young female student in 2014.<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/search?q=Yehuda+Berg+left+the+Kabbalah+Teaching+Centre+due+to+a+sexual+harassment+lawsuit+filed+against+him+by+a+young+female+student+in+2014+Vicodin+alcohol\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Link<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 5px; text-align: center;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<center>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/center>\n<div style=\"border-radius: 20px; text-align: left; border: thin solid black; margin: 1px; line-height: 180%; font-weight: 600; background-color: #f4caf8ff; color: #000; font-size: 100%; padding: 3%;\">\n<div style=\"height: 30px; text-align: center;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\">..::&#8221;Nobody in the world, nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of people who are oppressing them. <br \/>~ <a class=\"omw-open-modal\" href=\"#omw-43420\">Assata Shakur<\/a><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 100%; font-weight: 600;\">\u00a0<\/p>\n<div style=\"border-radius: 20px; text-align: left; border: thin solid black; margin: 1px; line-height: 180%; font-weight: 600; background-color: #dff; color: #000; font-size: 100%; padding: 3%;\">\n<div style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 100%; font-weight: 600;\">\n<h1><strong>On an individual level, <br \/>healing strategies include:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h1>\n<\/div>\n<ul style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 100%; font-weight: 600;\">\n<li><strong>Developing self-awareness<\/strong>: Practices like mindfulness can help individuals perceive and witness their own thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, rather than being ruled by them.\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li><strong>Finding safe spaces<\/strong>: Processing emotional pain requires a safe environment, whether through talking with a trusted person, a support group, or a mental health professional.\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li><strong>Creating a new narrative<\/strong>: By exploring and sharing one&#8217;s trauma story, it becomes less upsetting. This can happen through writing or speaking with trusted individuals.\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li><strong>Practicing self-regulation<\/strong>: Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and physical activity can help regulate the nervous system and calm the &#8220;fight, flight, or freeze&#8221; response.\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li><strong>Active Choice<\/strong>: Individuals can choose to break the cycle by seeking healing, forgiveness, and a living relationship with Self, thereby creating a different path for their own and future generations.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 100%; font-weight: 600;\">\u00a0<\/p>\n<div style=\"border-radius: 20px; text-align: left; border: thin solid black; margin: 1px; line-height: 180%; font-weight: 600; background-color: #fff; color: #000; font-size: 100%; padding: 3%;\">\n<p>Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) terminology, Matthew 6:24 illustrates the conflict of a person&#8217;s &#8220;Self&#8221; being torn between two competing &#8220;Protectors&#8221; or &#8220;Exiles&#8221;: the &#8220;God&#8221; part and the &#8220;Mammon&#8221; (MONEY\/materialism) part.<\/p>\n<p>A person cannot fully serve both, as each has a different agenda that creates internal conflict, forcing the Self to choose which to prioritize to avoid being overwhelmed by one&#8217;s own divided system.<\/p>\n<p>This is because &#8220;Mammon\/MONEY&#8221; operates as an external and potentially idolatrous &#8220;Protector&#8221; seeking security, while the &#8220;God&#8221; part represents a deeper spiritual &#8220;Witness&#8221; that can be neglected when &#8220;Mammon\/MONEY&#8221; rules.<\/p>\n<h2>Key concepts in IFS terms<\/h2>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>Conflicting parts:<\/h2>\n<p>The &#8220;God&#8221; part and the &#8220;Mammon&#8221; part are presented as two opposing managers or leaders within a person&#8217;s system. One is a part focused on spiritual and eternal things, while the other is a part focused on material wealth and security.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>Protector vs. Self:<\/h2>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>When a person tries to serve both, it&#8217;s because &#8220;Mammon\/MONEY&#8221; is acting as a &#8220;Protector&#8221; part, attempting to provide a sense of safety and worth. This creates an internal conflict with the &#8220;Self,&#8221; which is the core of the person&#8217;s being that should be in charge.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>Divided allegiance:<\/h2>\n<p>The scripture highlights that a divided heart is unsustainable. A person cannot maintain equal loyalty to two opposing &#8220;masters&#8221; because the &#8220;Protectors&#8221; demand different actions and have conflicting goals. One will be loved while the other is despised, leading to internal &#8220;hatred&#8221; or resentment.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>The choice:<\/h2>\n<p>The choice is not between being rich and being poor, but between which part has ultimate authority. Serving God is the way to achieve ultimate security, as it allows the &#8220;Self&#8221; to be in charge, while serving &#8220;Mammon&#8221; means the &#8220;Protector&#8221; takes over and exerts control over the person&#8217;s life.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2>Exile and unburdening:<\/h2>\n<p>Choosing &#8220;God&#8221; over &#8220;Mammon&#8221; is a path of &#8220;unburdening&#8221; the &#8220;Mammon&#8221; part, as the person&#8217;s security and worth are not dependent on material possessions. This allows the &#8220;Self&#8221; to lead and the &#8220;Mammon&#8221; part to be seen as a tool rather than the master.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 100%; font-weight: 600;\">\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"box-shadow: 5px 5px 5px #999999; border-radius: 20px; text-align: center; border: thin solid black; padding: 3%; margin: 1px; line-height: 100%; font-weight: 600; background-color: #fff; color: #000; font-size: 80%;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/empathymatters.org<\/a><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f462498 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"f462498\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8384490 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"8384490\" data-element_type=\"widget\" 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