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--><\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 0px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt;\">Flying Monkeys<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">&#8216;Flying Monkey&#8217; is the term given to those &#8216;<strong>agents<\/strong>&#8216; and allies that collude with an &#8216;abusive&#8217; person or &#8220;In-Group&#8221;.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The role of each &#8216;Flying Monkey&#8217; is to continue carrying out an ancient initial abuse by tormenting the &#8216;victim&#8217; on the abuser&#8217;s behalf. The abuser gets to &#8216;abuse by proxy&#8217; since it is the\u00a0<span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 600;\">&#8216;Flying Monkeys&#8217;<\/span> that are getting their hands dirty, while the abuser wears a &#8216;mask&#8217; of innocence. <a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/darvo-101\/\">See: DARVO<\/a><\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">It is a way of perpetuating normalized multi-generational abuse.\u00a0 Again, the abuser&#8217;s hands appear to be &#8216;clean&#8217; since the &#8216;Flying Monkeys&#8217; are doing the &#8216;dirty work&#8217; for the abuser.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p>So why does the narcissist need allies?<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">First of all, regardless of what happened, narcissists believe their victim deserves &#8216;punishment&#8217;.\u00a0 Narcissists do not accept any responsibility for their actions, but neither do they want to accept the consequences.\u00a0 <span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 600;\">Narcissists<\/span>\u00a0believe they are right, justified, and entitled. To the\u00a0<span style=\"font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 600;\">Narcissist,\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 17px;\">it is &#8216;always&#8217; the victim&#8217;s fault, and in their world, winning is never enough. They desire to destroy the victim, their support network, self-esteem, reputation, and anything else they can ruin.<\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px; text-align: left;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Narcissists live in a make-believe world, but they need others to believe in that world too. By recruiting flying monkeys, they are creating a cult around themselves with them at the center as the worshipful leader.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px; text-align: left;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">So they recruit others to do their dirty work for them, people who collude with them, and act as agents on their behalf. People who subscribe to their false version of reality.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px; text-align: left;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Since the abuser carefully controls the information each &#8216;agent&#8217; gets, they get to control the reality of their &#8216;cult&#8217;.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px; text-align: left;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The more people they recruit to their &#8217;cause&#8217;, the more they believe their own false narrative. They live in their own world of entitlement, self-righteousness, and false innocence.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p>The flying monkey&#8217;s main role is to discredit their victim.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p>REF: <a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/flying-monkeys\/\">https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/flying-monkeys\/<\/a><\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p>SOURCE: <a href=\"https:\/\/sentientcounselling.co.uk\/2020\/08\/14\/flying-monkeys-agents-of-the-narcissist\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/sentientcounselling.co.uk\/2020\/08\/14\/flying-monkeys-agents-of-the-narcissist\/<\/a><\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p>Image:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/jerome-k-moore.deviantart.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">jerome-k-moore.deviantart.com<\/a><\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 54px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<h3 style=\"height: 94px;\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Josefin Sans'; font-size: 18px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 600;\">When a narcissist attacks another person by name and asserts <a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/coercive-control\/\">coercive control,<\/a> the &#8220;<\/span><a style=\"font-family: 'Josefin Sans'; font-size: 18px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 600; background-color: #f4f1e1;\" href=\"https:\/\/psychcentral.com\/pro\/exhausted-woman\/2017\/03\/5-ways-narcissists-smear-others#1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Smear Campaign<\/a><span style=\"font-family: 'Josefin Sans'; font-size: 18px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 600;\">&#8221; begins<\/span>.<span style=\"font-size: 12pt;\"> (scape-goating)<\/span><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Flying monkeys often have strong narcissistic traits themselves, including a desire for attention, a lack of empathy, and a desire to bully and manipulate others. They may be involved in a family, work, or other situation in which they know that their best opportunity to fulfill their narcissistic desires comes from allying themselves with a more powerful narcissist.<\/p>\n<div style=\"height: 3px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<h5><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/women-autism-spectrum-disorder\/202010\/are-you-narcissist-s-flying-monkey\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/women-autism-spectrum-disorder\/202010\/are-you-narcissist-s-flying-monkey<\/a><\/h5>\n<div style=\"height: 3px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-37fde29 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"37fde29\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-16 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1c6faba\" data-id=\"1c6faba\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6e695ee\" data-id=\"6e695ee\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b408b6a elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b408b6a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"680\" height=\"340\" src=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/nvc-peace.jpeg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-15075\" alt=\"nvc-peace\" srcset=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/nvc-peace.jpeg 680w, https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/nvc-peace-300x150.jpeg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-16 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5f64ea2\" data-id=\"5f64ea2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7b02a72 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7b02a72\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-25 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-78b78ee\" data-id=\"78b78ee\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-276d91d\" data-id=\"276d91d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-083926e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"083926e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"border-radius: 20px; text-align: center; border: thin solid white; margin: 1px;line-height: 230%; font-weight: 540; background-color: #fff; color: #000; font-size: 120%;padding: 3%;\">\n\n\n<p>&#8220;To know how we can be peaceful with ourselves when we&#8217;re less than perfect. For example: How we can learn from our limitations without blaming and punishing our self?\u00a0 If we can&#8217;t do that, I&#8217;m not too optimistic how we&#8217;re going to relate peacefully out in the world.\u00a0<br \/>\n~Marshall Rosenberg\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-25 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-e52f101\" data-id=\"e52f101\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-0ad9b45 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0ad9b45\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container 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elementor-col-16 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-96d9b59\" data-id=\"96d9b59\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-582d54f\" data-id=\"582d54f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-467c2d1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"467c2d1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"680\" height=\"340\" src=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/feelngs-nvc.jpeg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-14850\" alt=\"feelngs-nvc\" srcset=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/feelngs-nvc.jpeg 680w, https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/feelngs-nvc-300x150.jpeg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-16 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2a6b8e8\" data-id=\"2a6b8e8\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3a51c73 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3a51c73\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div 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1px;line-height: 230%; font-weight: 540; background-color: #fff; color: #000; font-size: 120%;padding: 3%;\">\n\n<p>Many people use the word feeling and thought interchangeably. In nonviolent communication, when we use the word feeling, we want it to refer to an emotion that a person is experiencing that doesn&#8217;t contain any diagnosis or intellectual analysis of the other person.\u00a0 \u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/flying-monkeys\/\">https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/flying-monkeys\/<\/a><\/p>\n\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-25 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-11f0772\" data-id=\"11f0772\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-0c1d775 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0c1d775\" data-element_type=\"section\" 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