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The facilitator volunteers to be the first listener, asking for\u00a0 anyone to be the first speaker.\u00a0 After the speaker&#8217;s time is up, the listener becomes the next speaker and selects who they will speak to.<\/h4><div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div><h4>2. They speak about whatever comes up for them for a set time&#8230; (typically three to five minutes )<\/h4><div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div><h4>3. The listener reflects back the essence of what they are hearing until the speaker feels heard and understood to their satisfaction.<\/h4><div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div><h4>4. Then it is the listener&#8217;s turn to select who they will speak to and for the new listener to reflect back the essence of what they are hearing.<\/h4><div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div><h4>5. Everyone helps hold the circle process by monitoring &amp; sticking to the steps.<\/h4><div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div><h4>The dialog continues around the circle for the time allotted.<\/h4><div style=\"height: 34px;\">\u00a0<\/div><h4 style=\"text-align: left;\">Full group debrief.<\/h4><p style=\"text-align: center;\">&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-\u00a0<\/p><div><h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">How-To:\u00a0<strong>PDF<\/strong>:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/HOW_TO_v4-.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Revised date 5 Oct 2024<\/a><\/h3><\/div><p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>How-To: <\/strong>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/How-To-Basic-Empathy-Circle-2.0_b.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">PDF: How To Basic Empathy Circle \u2013 2.0_b<\/a><\/p><div style=\"height: 3px; 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Everyone is encouraged to host their own empathy circles upon completing the empathy circle training at:\u00a0 \u00a0<a style=\"font-size: 100%; background-color: #ffffff; letter-spacing: 0.2px; color: #000000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.EmpathyCircle.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">www.EmpathyCircle.com<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"height: 24px;\">\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-20458ce elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"20458ce\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-048353a\" data-id=\"048353a\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ef5e460 elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"ef5e460\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"line-height: 170%; font-size: 140%; text-align: left; margin-left: 2%; margin-right: 2%;\">\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/empathymatters.org\/now\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/empathy-circle-events-crop-2.png\" alt=\"conversation\" width=\"190\" height=\"129\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Speaker Tips<\/p>\n<p>* Pause often to give the listener a chance to reflect what they heard. You may repeat anything that is left out, or not accurately reflected, if it is essential to your message being understood as you see it. (but the listener need not agree, nor disagree, nor offer advice, nor offer directions)\u00a0 If the speaker senses they were not heard, they simply repeat themselves. The facilitator will assist the listener with the verbal reflection, if speaker states they were not heard after three attempts.<\/p>\n<p>* When you have expressed yourself fully, and if you feel heard, you can say \u201cI\u2019m fully heard\u201d to indicate that you are done with your turn.\u00a0 Then your listener becomes the new speaker.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Active Listener\/Reflector<\/span><\/p>\n<p>* In your own words reflect back the essence of what you hear the speaker saying.<\/p>\n<p>* Refrain from asking questions, judging, analyzing, detaching, diagnosing, advising or sympathizing. When it\u2019s your turn to speak, you can say anything you want.<\/p>\n<p>* You may ask the speaker to pause periodically so you can reflect what you heard.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Silent Listeners<\/span><\/p>\n<p>* Listen and be present to the exchange between the speaker and active listener\/reflector. You will soon have a turn to actively listen and speak.<\/p>\n<p>The group may choose to have a discussion topic or question to address in the circle.<\/p>\n<p><!-- To learn more about empathy skills visit our website at:<br \/>\n<span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/CultureOfEmpathy.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">CultureOfEmpathy.com<\/a><\/span><br \/>\n--><\/p>\n<p style=\"height: 24px;\">\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-076127d e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"076127d\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d29352f elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"d29352f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a name=\"resolution\" id=\"resolution\"><\/a> \n<div style=\"height:74px;\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6034876 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"6034876\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c30b161 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c30b161\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a89e12b e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"a89e12b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-41cc353 elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"41cc353\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"border-radius: 20px; text-align: center; border: thin solid black; padding: 3%; margin: 1px; line-height: 180%; font-weight: 600; background-color: #fff; color: #000; font-size: 100%;\">\n<h3>Conflict Resolution<br \/>\nwith Reflective Listening<\/h3>\n<p><iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9iwN6d3rRaI?si=iibVpwe1HZCgcZ87\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3>Dr. Thomas Gordon on the<\/h3>\n<h3>No Lose Method<\/h3>\n<h3>(conflict resolution)<\/h3>\n<div style=\"height: 74px;\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p><iframe title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/WZwi3nEPByA?si=X2QKZF7DrxBcKmz-\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3>Parenting Effectiveness Training (PET)<\/h3>\n<h3>- with Steve Emmons<\/h3>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f137bc8 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"f137bc8\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-bac4eb2 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"bac4eb2\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2435de5f\" data-id=\"2435de5f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59518f6c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"59518f6c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"color: #ffffff; background-color: #041876;\"><strong>\n&#8220;We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding and true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for (self awareness) change that I know.\n~Carl Rogers\n<\/strong><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bef7bb0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bef7bb0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"color: #ffffff; background-color: #041876;\">\n\n..::&#8221;Trauma is when your reality is neither seen nor acknowledged&#8221; ~Bessel van der Kolk<strong style=\"font-size: 16px; background-color: transparent;\">\u00a0<\/strong>\n\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-703b4f4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"703b4f4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"color: #ffffff; background-color: #041876;\">\n\n<strong>..::&#8221;The finest emotion of which we are capable is the mystic emotion. Herein lies the germ of all art and all true science. Anyone to whom this feeling is alien, who is no longer capable of wonderment and lives in a state of fear is a dead man. ~Albert Einstein\u00a0<\/strong><strong style=\"font-size: 16px; background-color: transparent;\">\u00a0<\/strong>\n\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ef94a43 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"ef94a43\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-21898b1\" data-id=\"21898b1\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d26ad03 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d26ad03\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"color: #ffffff; background-color: #041876;\">\n\n<strong>The two main criteria are:\n<\/strong>\n\n<span style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><strong>1. 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